Women and street harassment.
By Gwen Sharp, PhD
Yesterday I was walking to a convenience store when a guy shouted at me that I looked really pretty. I ignored him. He yelled again and walked up to me. I gave him that tight, uncomfortable half-smile-with-no-eye-contact women sometimes use to try to acknowledge random male attention just enough so maybe the guy will feel like he’s gotten the reaction he is entitled to, in the hopes that he’ll then lose interest and go away.
He did go away, but only to get in a car with this friends and then drive slowly next to me, yelling “compliments” about how pretty I looked and trying to get me to look at them. And when I continued to ignore them, they finally yelled “bitch!” and drove off, a situation I’m sure many of our readers have experienced — the reaction you get when you dare to not be just pleased as punch that some men are following you on the street, helpfully going out of their way to openly approve of your performance of femininity, thus letting you know that you are a worthwhile human being.
And today I opened an email from Susan C. with a link to this cartoon over at Ampersand that nicely sums up this oft-played-out scenario. Thanks, Susan!
Cross-posted at Jezebel.
Gwen Sharp is an associate professor of sociology at Nevada State College. You can follow her on Twitter at @gwensharpnv.
Oh yeah. Lives of saying no must be so much worse than ever putting yourself out there and getting shot down…..over and over and over and over and over and over, no matter what. Ask how that would effect you. You wouldn’t try anymore if you’re decent. You shut down. And then you watch women cue off of money and pro activity, women using their gender as an excuse to be sought after (everyone wants to be chased….EVERYONE)…..and then complain when it wasn’t the right moneydick.I’ve never seen anyone speak like that to a woman and I certainly don’t surround myself with those male friends, but you ladies sure do. Then you hate yourself for saying yes, then project that shit on others. The images of both gender here is so over exaggerated. It’s usually vitriol from even a glance at a woman. And taken further, the female makes you pay (emotionally) for wanting anything. This is perfect man hating ether for Tumblr. Sex isn’t everything, but when it’s always an option for women, something that isn’t a challenge, you’ll never empathize. Tell those men to fuck off. Don’t be silent. Nobody learns anything. and don’t encourage a culture of attempting to extort from those pricks. You start to like it eventually.
1) I’m a man that used to be a steelworker and spent plenty of time around “regular guys” as a result. This behavior towards women is not that uncommon. In fact it’s so common and normalized that these guys don’t usually see what they’re doing as wrong, because it’s “just a joke” or because everyone else is doing it, or because she doesn’t speak up, etc.
2) “I certainly don’t surround myself with those male friends, but you ladies sure do”
The men in that comic don’t appear to be her friends. Furthermore, this post was about street harassment. Chances are that doesn’t refer to “friends” either. I don’t know where you live, but I’m not used to the idea of inviting harassment just by walking down a sidewalk.
3) If your idea of “putting yourself out there” and looking for a relationship is yelling “I want to bang you!” to someone whose name you don’t even know, you’ve got a really messed up idea of relationships and need help. See a counselor.
4) “women cue off of money and pro activity”
5) “(everyone wants to be chased….EVERYONE)”
6) Chances are that there’s nothing I can say to get through to you on any of this anyway, because based on your self-centered attitude and screen name, you’ve leveled up to “Euphoria, Destroyer of Friendzones”, and can only be defeated by preparing the epic-level spell “Summon Anti-Neckbeard” to seal you away in a basement of resentment for a thousand years.
THIS COMMENTARY. I WANNA FRAME IT.
Hundreds of boys across 27 schools in the city took part in the “Lift the Skirt” campaign, which was thought up by the students and backed by the education ministry. Students who didn’t feel like baring their legs showed support by wearing stickers that read, “I am fighting against sexism, are you?”
"…and backed by the education ministry." holy fucking shit that is awesome!!
I tweaked some things about ordering this t-shirt since returning from the USA with a bunch of stock I’d left cooling in Florida since Nerdapalooza.
The shirts are now $15, plus shipping. I have stock in every size from small to 4XL. They are all boxy-shaped and not fitted but look great when you hack them up.
I hope you like the design and empty my home of it swiftly so I can afford to manufacture more King Hippo Hugger shirts, and/or finally make the next design available!
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Here is where to order it with PayPal: dangerously.bandcamp.com
Even if you can’t grab a shirt right now, or you’d rather wait til the next design is available, it would mean a lot to me if you would reblog this.
Thanks everybody. Love you.
I got the last tank top of this design and it is ultra swell. You want one! You need one! Oo baby!
Probably my favorite thing about Bob’s Burgers is that they don’t do that thing where the characters try to one-up each other with an endless barrage of jokes? No, the characters react like actual people instead. They actually laugh or chuckle when somebody says something actually funny and/or weird. They stop mid-sentence. They do double-takes. And it all feels so very natural, because that is exactly what common people do. And that is such a refreshing change of pace, when you consider the fact that the norm in these things is to have jokes relentlessly thrown at you at break-necking speed.
also the comedy doesn’t rely on the parents hating and berating eachother idk i love that
it shows how you don’t need to be offensive to be funny
general banter is the best way to write dialogue
A look at my latest project! Scored a broken Gamecube from eBay for about ten bucks and transformed it into a purse. It opens exactly how you’d think it would!
I’m going to keep this original prototype since it has some cosmetic issues, but the plan is to eventually make these to sell! :3
So, as everyone already knows in 2010 I had a still born daughter. She was born at 20weeks 5days in the Rosemary Suite, Colchester. When she was born we had no clothing or nappies etc small enough to fit her, she was also bought to us in a little wicker basket, one like they used to use to carry flowers in. Thankfully the hospital had some mini hats and smallish cardigans that we used.
Not everyone is as lucky as us though, I know a few ladies personally and have read numerous stories online about families that have been through similar but have had their children given to them in things such as shoe boxes. The hospitals haven’t helped them in any way at all, and that’s heart breaking.
So, my mother in law has been creating these. They’re prem-cribs, small enough for babies born as early as bam and maybe even smaller. She’s uses a ‘Carte dor’ ice cream oval tub as the foundation and knits around them like this in order to make them and then knits a separate little pillow and blanket for the baby. She’s also knitting some tiny little dresses and outfits too. I have been crocheting tiny hats and so on as well. We plan on making as many as we can and donating them to the Rosemary suite to start with, and hopefully in the future we will be able to go further to other hospitals too.
If anyone has any Carte dor oval tubs they are going to throw int he bin, I would really appreciate it if you could save them and possibly send them my way (even if I need to pay the shipping).
Also, I know there are many that will continue to go through this awful experience, as unfortunate as that is. If you would like one of these or have a particular thing you’d like made before your baby is born etc, then please don’t hesitate to ask because I would be honoured to help as much as possible!
*if you could share this, it would be fantastic*